The Dadliest Cast
Dave & Garrett, 2 best friends, get together to talk about being dads, life, hobbies, and some other things.
The Dadliest Cast
A Year of Humor, Heart, and Life
After a brief pause from the podcasting world, we're back with the same zest and an array of stories that are bound to keep you hooked. From Jake's transition from football cleats to baseball mitts to Annabelle's awe-inspiring academic leap towards nursing, we're here sharing milestones and musings that'll make you feel right at home. This episode isn't just about catching up; it's about looking forward to the incredible journey ahead, filled with potential guest interviews, live event adventures, and perhaps even a YouTube channel in the making.
Diving headfirst into the banter of fantasy football, we rate team names that are sure to bring a laugh or cause a double-take. Imagine our chuckles at clever jests like "Obi-Wan Mahomi" and the subtle nod to culinary delights with "The Catalina Wine Mixon". But the humor doesn't end there. We peel back the curtain on a personal tale that's as intriguing as any suspense novel, promising to share more as the story unfolds in future episodes.
As we steer the conversation towards the heartwarming achievements of our very own Annabelle, we can't help but reflect on the profound aspects of parenting and life's unpredictable tides. We pay homage to the friendships that bolster us, the importance of being present for our children, and how sometimes, the most unexpected decisions lead to the most rewarding paths. Wrapping up with a debate that pits flamingo legs against T-Rex arms and a dad joke that guarantees a groan, this episode is a testament to the joy and camaraderie that keep us all tuning in.
Yeah, it's been a while since we did a recording, so we might as well get one knocked out, like we told the followers that we were gonna do.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it feels like it's been a while. It has Like November, even maybe before.
Speaker 1:Thanksgiving. I think we did one in December, and then I did that one towards the end of the year and then you did yours in early January, maybe. Yeah, so it's been about a month since we even uploaded a recording of any sort. But here we are. We're still alive. Yeah, we're here. Social media's kinda slowed down for us both.
Speaker 2:Yeah, winter break.
Speaker 1:Break or just winter busyness? Yeah, I mean, jake finished up football end of October, basically Rolled right into basketball and now he's doing conditioning for spring baseball. So that's been nonstop with him. Annabelle is doing school work Talk about that here in a minute, because we got some big news on that front and you've been busy.
Speaker 2:Yeah, winter lacrosse every Thursday, but it's been fun. I'm kinda learning as I'm going about the game of lacrosse, still not totally familiar with the rules and such, but what's a foul, what's not Right, you know, but I'm getting a decent understanding of it and you know, kaitlin's having fun. So that wrapped up here over the last week. So we got a little bit of a break before practice starts for the actual season.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Of which there are 18 games. Geez long season.
Speaker 1:Yeah, so let's hop into this. Welcome to the dalleous cast where your hosts, david and Garrett, we're gonna talk about this episode like we've been hinting at. Garrett and I both did separate recordings talking about what kind of brought us to where we are today. We're gonna kinda do a compare and contract of those two stories and look at the similarities and the differences, fill in with some other fun things that are going on. You are answer the internet questions and I wanna talk about what I wanna accomplish with this podcast for this upcoming year. And, on that note, happy one year anniversary of the podcast. Happy one year podcast anniversary Added to Webster's.
Speaker 1:Yeah, so it is officially as of yesterday. Got the post via Facebook or something memory I think yesterday was one year that our first episode went live, so it's been a crazy fast year. I was telling my wife about it, just like it's been a year already. I'm like, yeah, it's been a year, a little over a year with the behind the scenes stuff we were doing just to get prepped for that first recording, but it's been fun. Yeah, it's been fun. We're gonna keep this rolling. We're gonna call this season two.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1:We'll roll the seasons on the calendar, the anniversary year. So season two is gonna kind of wrap up season one Plans and goals for season two and still gonna do a very similar concept Talk about that stuff life stuff, being husbands, being best friends, mike Delvin to work. You know we both come from the same background in professional industry, so maybe we'll do a couple episodes talking about what we do and maybe giving you guys some insider information, some trade secrets, and maybe drum up some business for ourselves. Yeah, that'd be kind of cool, but let's roll into it.
Speaker 1:So with 2024, season two of the Adlias Cas podcast, I'd like to actually maybe get an interview or two in with a guest, another guest, dad, get some other voices on here. So I'm gonna have to expand the recording setup. I want to do that. I want to do some on-site stuff at like some locations that we enjoy. I was joking with you.
Speaker 1:You were telling me about Caitlyn playing Winsor La Crosse and how you were trying to learn the game as you were watching it. We should post up with like a Play by play A picnic table, set up the mics and just be two bozo dads commenting on the game. Oh man, see how fast. We get thrown out or at least told to stop recording, whichever occurs first. So I kind of want to do a couple of those things, but I think the big goal would be to get some more voices on here, some dads that we both know we can interview them and talk to them. I'd also like to maybe try to do the whole Create a YouTube channel this year. Maybe we do some video recording of our audio recording.
Speaker 2:You can see our lovely ugly faces yeah.
Speaker 1:Yeah, as we've aged, we're not getting any prettier.
Speaker 2:Not necessarily like a fine wine, no no, we're definitely.
Speaker 1:We're seasoned, but probably with just a little bit of salt and pepper. So let's do a quick little icebreaker. Answer the internet. Debate the internet. What are the funniest names for fantasy football team? Now, we used to do a lot of fantasy football back in the day and over the past couple of years one of my salespeople at work he does a fantasy football league, so I've joined him. With him, I named my team this past season Obi-Wan Mahomi I like that one.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I thought that was a cool one. A lot of people do simple ones, a lot of people do some off the off the cuff ones, so I've got a list here, because trying to come up with some on the fly aren't easy. So, on a scale of one to 10, I'll read these off Garrett, we're kind of mod this question Scale of one to 10, one being garbage, 10 being priceless, I'm going to read some off and you give me your rating. All right, so best fantasy football teams names based on quarterbacks. So Carolina Panthers, quarterback Bryce is young, bryce, young, the Bryce is right, bryce is right, I like it. Okay. Scale of one to 10. Eight, eight, okay. Fried Bryce, ten. Yeah, I enjoyed that one. Let's see here CJ Stroud, houston, texas, quarterback Stroudy, with a chance at deep balls, that's a 10. It's a little long but I like it To affinity and beyond, to a tongue of Iloa. Miami Dolphins, quarterback Eight Joe Burrow, beg Burrow and Steel. Nine Jalen Hurts, hurts, so good.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it's kind of lame. Yeah, I give it a five.
Speaker 1:This is Dak Prescott. Hit me with your Prescott Eight Matthew Stafford, quarterback, la Rams, inglorious Staffords.
Speaker 2:I like that one.
Speaker 1:All right, let's move on to a different position. Let's go running backs Bed, bath and Bijan.
Speaker 2:Bed Bath and Bijan. I like that. I give that one a 10.
Speaker 1:Gibbs and you shall receive Jameer Gibbs. Rookie running back for the Detroit Lions had a great season.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'm a Detroit fan. I give it a 10. Let's see here Hiding Go Zeke, zeke, elliott Eight, the Najmahal Well that one is near and dear to my heart, so that one's a 10. Najy by nature. That's also a 10.
Speaker 1:The Catalina Wine Mixin. That's got to be a 10. Yeah, let's go. Why, receivers, I'm smart, I'm sorry, smith Jackson, oh, I like that. That's a good one. 10. Zay, my name, zay Flowers. Yeah, eight April showers, bring Zay Flowers. 10. High speed chase.
Speaker 2:I like that one. I give it a nine.
Speaker 1:Let's see here how I met calf, your mother. I don't know about that one. Okay, cooper Troopers.
Speaker 2:Cooper Troopers like it.
Speaker 1:Finding Debo, finding Debo Good one Pop Drop and Lock it.
Speaker 2:That's a good one. I give that one a 10.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's strong. Let's see here Tight ends Pits and giggles Cow pits I almost forget he plays because the Falcons don't know how to use them. Yeah, tight ends are tough actually. Noah Fant touch this. Yeah, school of hard knocks. Kittle League. Let's go back to Y receivers. A Lave Oil yeah, I like that one. Bend it like Beckham Odell's kind of falling off. Let's see here Red Solo Cup.
Speaker 2:I don't know.
Speaker 1:No, Eckler a Harley-Knowher.
Speaker 2:That's a good one. I give that one a 10. Oh man.
Speaker 1:Let's see here. Let's find one for someone random, near and dear to my heart, being an Atlanta Falcons fan. Also, he's my South Korean brother from another mother, kicker Young Way. Koo Koo, let the Dogs.
Speaker 2:Out. That's a good one yeah.
Speaker 1:The big splash from this pass NFL season was Rookie Puka Nakuwa, for the LA Rams, broke the rookie receiving record Nakuwa Matata.
Speaker 2:I like Nakuwa. Yeah, I give that one a 10.
Speaker 1:10 inappropriate fantasy football team names Kiss and Cousins, 50 Shades of Trey, cds, tds. Baby Got Deck Hot Chub Time Machine. My neck, my deck, half job.
Speaker 2:Aaron it out.
Speaker 1:For medication Kamara sutra.
Speaker 2:Young, free and single. Terry Jovitt, 19. Yeah, green eggs and cam.
Speaker 1:There's some good ones out there. There are definitely some good ones out there. The acres doesn't okay, I like that. Sure, sadly came acres. Just I Don't know.
Speaker 2:Just a two us, jamar the Marrier.
Speaker 1:To affinity and Bijon, cup yours, cup my life in two pieces Like it all right. So let's talk about something crazy that's come up in my life. Okay, before we get into the meat potatoes of this episode. So we've discussed in the past how Annabelle is a junior in high school, mm-hmm and 17 years old as of today's reporting. Towards her end of her first quarter, she made the decision that she would attempt and want to graduate high school this year. So, being the stubborn, big girl, determined Person as she is, she went and talked to her guidance counselor and other people involved in the school district and she has switched since the end of the first semester, and currently now in the second semester, to completely online education, with the high school Needing only two credits to graduate this year. So that's what she's doing. So she is technically now in the senior class class of 2024, graduating this June, has applied to colleges, has been accepted To numerous colleges and I'll just rattle some off here for us Duquesne University here in Pittsburgh, west Virginia University, the University of Vermont, the University of New Hampshire and New England College. Now her goal is to go to college and graduate in nursing, get a BSN. So we are 99.9% Certain that she will be attending the New England College Located in Hennigarh, new Hampshire. Shout out to Hennigarh and New Hampshire. Starting this fall semester, I guess end of August, mid-august, something like that, when kids go off to college, I wouldn't know. You know it. Yeah, so it's what? February, so we're six months away. We're right at that six month mark, basically proud of that kid. Yeah, yeah, freaking amazing, freaking amazing. So she does a vocational school in the morning where she's going for health and nursing sciences, finishes that up, gets home about 1030, does her online school work and then goes and works her ice cream parlor job and Also got a big girl job, as we like to call it in our house Mm-hmm.
Speaker 1:She is now a patient and family concierge employee for UPMC. Don't know what that really all entails, except for the fact that she, like walks around with nurses and brings stuff to patients and hangs out with them and a lot of other things are involved. But her she started her job. I think she's got two shifts under her belt. She did orientation, her first shift was last Wednesday and then this past Saturday was her second shift. So she's done a six hour and eight hour and a 12 and apparently she worked overtime Saturday because she was supposed to get off at six or six thirty and end up getting off to almost eight. Because in nursing, if there's no one there to relieve you, you gotta stay, you gotta stay. So she stayed.
Speaker 1:A cool story, though. Cool story though. Ready for this one? Okay, I don't know, we didn't talk too much last week so I don't think I told you the story.
Speaker 1:Her first real day last Wednesday, she started at noon, so 12 to 8 was her shift. Okay, my wife sends me a text of screenshot conversations between her and Annabelle. Like two o'clock in the afternoon she helped save a patient's life. Apparently, she was in a room with a patient and the patient started coding Mm-hmm. So she hit the code button and started administering CPR until the other medical staff could come in and render more, I guess, intricate or difficult aid. But she, she was given kudos on her first day by her nurses and Co-workers on her floor that day. Awesome, so yeah. And then she had to finish out the rest of the work day, having saved a life, essentially.
Speaker 1:So yeah, she, she's having fun with it. For sure. She's making twenty four dollars and fifty cents an hour. Little bitch Mm-hmm. I love her, but I think when I started my first job, real job, I was making like 650 an hour. Yeah, it was like Even high fives, I think 575. Yeah, her part time. So she's got a part-time job at the hospital and a part-time job at the ice cream shop. I think the ice cream shop pays her 950, what the hell. So, yeah, so she's gonna save all her big girl job money. She said to go off to college with her. She said to go off to college with and we've got to start applying for scholarships and grants and then, like, as the remainder is going to be loans. So if anybody wants to help, donate to the cause, help, please, please help. So, yeah, that's the big news in the Urquhart household and it could do. Hampshire is about a 10 hour drive from here, through scenic woods and back roads and all that fun stuff, so you know.
Speaker 1:I think in August It'll be nice, driving up there won't be too hot, yeah, going up that direction. And then I think parents weekend at most colleges it's like mid to late September, maybe early October, yeah, so it'd be really cool to drive up there in the fall Sure leaves changing colors and scenery. So she she was like, don't, don't worry about bringing me home for like the small breaks I Guess like Thanksgiving breaks only five days or something like that, mm-hmm, so I don't have to drive up there for that, but I'll bring her home for Christmas break. And then she's like don't even worry about bringing me home for summer break. I, I'm gonna take summer classes on campus and just stay. So she sent herself up for a three-year accelerated graduation, yes, yeah. And then she wants to roll right into her master's Whatever child. At this point I think you got a pretty strong handle on it.
Speaker 1:Yeah no doubt. So that's exciting. We got a plan graduation party. Gotta find a pavilion, probably at North Park. Mm-hmm probably on a Saturday.
Speaker 2:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 1:Maybe a Sunday everybody's off, hopefully, and yeah, but do a big to do while her boyfriend is a senior as well. So maybe I'll talk to his parents and see if we can do just one big-ass combined graduation party. I don't know. Yeah split the cost a little bit. If not, whatever, I was gonna foot the bill for this anyway. So yeah, life is moving fast right now. Yeah, it is, it's ridiculously fast and it's exciting, though it's exciting. Good stress, mm-hmm, you know the stress. She's handling it like a champ, though she is.
Speaker 1:I would expect nothing less right right, pat, and myself and my wife on the back little she's doing the work, but hopefully, you know, we instilled something in her and encouraged her along the way. We've talked about that in the past encouraging your child's dreams and supporting them, mm-hmm, no matter how ridiculous they make sound to you as a parent, it's not your life, it's not your goals, it's not your dreams. So Kudos to us for you know, practicing what we preach.
Speaker 1:Mm-hmm more parents need to be like that, more fathers need to be like that. You know, I follow a lot of like that accounts and Stuff of that sort on the various social media platforms and I was reading this story about a kid who's and I think high school and he got a job at a restaurant chain and was really enjoying it and the dad was giving him a little bit of grief, like yeah, that's a good job for now, but it's not a good job for later, and kept giving him grief that he wouldn't even think about getting an office job and going off to college and Stuff like that. And the kid ended up going to college but still working at that same restaurant chain and as he worked there more and more he decided he was actually going to drop out of college and work there full-time and Was getting promotion after promotion and dad was just being unsupportive and the whole nine. And I think the kid ended up cutting His dad out of his life to a degree and I applaud him for that. I don't disagree with that whatsoever. You know it is his life, it is his like. He found something he's passionate about, he really enjoys doing, and he's going after it, you know, so kudos to that young man.
Speaker 1:Hopefully that's a true story. Nobody made that up. Anything with you, anything big news, great news.
Speaker 2:No, maybe like no news is good news, kind of deal you know yeah, yeah, I get that get that it's kind of plug it along here.
Speaker 1:Yeah, both our families have had the run of food like illnesses and colds and stuff in the past few weeks oh.
Speaker 2:Yeah, he does in December over Christmas.
Speaker 1:Yeah, we got it in like mid-January, mm-hmm, everybody but Annabelle laid us out, laid us out. So yeah, sometimes no news is good news, for sure, mm-hmm, but I'll turn it over to you. I'm gonna get a drink here. Recap your your story a little bit, I really, before you get into it. I really enjoyed your story. I learned a few things about you that I didn't know and I I don't know about you guys out there, but I enjoyed it, I think, more than I enjoyed my own, such as life to you. Almost end up rooting for someone else, but go ahead.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I mean I, for me it was kind of I don't want to say enjoyment, but maybe even a little Therapeutic, to kind of walk down memory lane a little bit. It's not something I revisit often or Talk about, doesn't come up in daily conversation or anything like that, so To actually sit down and and think about it For, yeah, maybe the first time in a while it was. It was kind of therapeutic and, you know, revisiting some of the Thoughts and feelings and Motions of you know over that happened over the course of time. So yeah, I mean, you know some people are lucky enough to make it through their childhood without any major events, so to speak, or occurrences. You know some people deal with divorce, moving, job upheaval, unemployment, things like that.
Speaker 2:You know I unfortunately my event was the death of a parent, which is not easy at any age. But for a 16 and 12 year old it was definitely not something that you know a kid or teen thinks that they'll have to deal with. You know much less, let alone a 40 something dad thinking he's going to end up being a single parent or you know, or anything like that. But yeah, it was definitely. It was just kind of eye-opening to think about it now versus you know when, kind of put a lot of that just out of my mind, you know, on the back burner and didn't dwell on it because you know, didn't have time, had school, had this, had that, the other thing. And you know, days and weeks turn into years and here we are.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, I mean, you have a point. You kind of bury those memories, you know, sometimes for good, sometimes for bad, but you kind of bury those memories in a deep corner of your mind and you don't really look back on them. Listening to yours, you know you had a and I think you use this phrase almost a stereotypical childhood, in a sense of you had a mom, you had a dad, you had a sibling, you know.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you know, typical three bedroom house in western Pennsylvania in the backyard and a fenced in. You know fenced in the backyard and you know family get-togethers every holiday was pretty much what maybe you would picture if you were to quote unquote have a normal upbringing.
Speaker 1:And then you know having to deal with grief and loss at a young age. You almost end up. You know compartmentalizing that as you get older. But the polarity in your upbringing, in my upbringing, I kind of chuckled when I listened to yours and I thought about mine. You grew up with mom and dad. I grew up with mom and who I thought was dad and who I also thought was dad and similar in that sense. I had a mom and dad, no siblings, I was an only child. I grew up in a city, you grew up in the country, you know, so a little polarity there.
Speaker 1:But we kind of, you know, as you got older you got into the public school setting. I was always a public school kid, which I think you know. Public school versus private school, there's really no difference. But you do get the social education in that upbringing. I didn't have a ton of family. We didn't do the family vacations, we didn't go anywhere. Summer vacations were for planning the neighborhood for me and working around the house and stuff like that and as I got older, getting jobs. But then you know, I dealt with loss when I was 11. And as I got older I compartmentalized that. I pushed that to a deep dark corner of my mind. And then I was real young when Lori and I had our first child. I was 20 years old and I didn't get into that too too much. But I had to grow up and I had to grow up fast. At that point which, coming from a single parent home, realistically I was already kind of prepared for that.
Speaker 1:You had to grow up way before that, even yeah yeah, I grew up in a rough part of the city of Pittsburgh. You know where I was the minority in the minority community. I talked about that a little bit. So I was always trying to find my place, trying to be accepted and stuff like that. And in doing so in that kind of environment that does lead you down a dangerous road where you make mistakes and you make bad decisions again for the acceptance of your surroundings and those around you. So I didn't have a ton of close friends. I had a couple that kept me a bit more on a straight and narrow. My cat is here freaking out, but she's getting more and more comfortable guests being around. A few years ago she would dart and hit somewhere and not come out for hours probably.
Speaker 1:But you did the stereotypical to a degree childhood into the teen years, graduate high school, go off to college, and then I think your story becomes that of a lot of people now when they go off to college and experiences don't work out and then they find themselves down a different road than they had intended. But without that, you're not here today, you and I aren't sitting here together recording this podcast. It's kind of wild to think about had you fulfilled your your plans and things have worked out the way you had hoped initially. You're probably working downtown in an architectural firm building shit. If I didn't have a child at 20 years old, I'm probably not in the car business and never meet you. And we can work backwards from each of those little points and say, had I done this, I wouldn't have made it to that next step. But it's not good to dwell on the what ifs of the past, in my opinion, but it's good to think back on them. You get the therapy out of it to a degree be a good memories or closure of bad memories and reflect back on that and saying, ok, I'm who I am today because of those decisions, those instances, those experiences and I'm thankful for that. I'm grateful for that, you know, because we could all be in a worse position Very, very fast for sure, just by one little thing changing or one major thing changing.
Speaker 1:You know, to this day I still don't know who my dad is Some dude out there Don't know if I exist, or he does know and doesn't care, and he got 18 years of not having to pay child support. So I guess he won that one. Sometimes you just got to lighten the mood a bit. When I did my recording I just kind of had a bug up my ass about it. So I just sat down, put the headphones on and started recording. So I think my story wasn't as cohesive as yours and didn't flow as well as yours did. I think you put a little bit definitely a bit more time and effort into your recording and that also is a polarity that we have.
Speaker 2:I think I recorded it three times before I was happy with it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I went raw, but I was thinking about this yesterday after we had talked and was like, yeah, we definitely have to record today. We share a lot of similarities for things, but our polarity, our opposites are just as opposite as our similarities are similar.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and you know the old phrase, opposites attract and they talk about that with dating and in relationships. I think our bond and our friendship obviously grew over our similarities, but I think over the years our opposites, our differences in our past and our upbringings really bonded us even tighter, because I have experiences and situations that I've gone through that you haven't, and vice versa, and I think we've always leaned on each other for that and given each other a little bit of support in those situations. Yeah, so you're definitely more of a critical thinker and work through things. That's something I've gotten better with over the years. But I'm more of a now, now, now person in a lot of situations, in the majority of situations. So I would lean more of a impulse person.
Speaker 1:This podcast is a perfect example. I want to do a podcast. It's something I had wanted to do in years past and I want to do a podcast. I was like I figured here you go, do your podcast, god damn it. We're doing a podcast and that was just an impulse thing and I'm glad for it.
Speaker 1:But reflecting back on my upbringing, definitely, I think, has helped in a degree with raising my children. Perfect example I worked hard through my teen years and I busted my ass doing stuff and I had to do stuff for myself a lot of the times and I can see that with my oldest we not once talked about her graduating early and maybe it was the bitching and the complaining and the moaning of how ineffective and lacking the school district is in certain a lot of areas Maybe that had something to do with it that she was like okay, I got to make a change here and she took it upon herself to make those changes. So I'm like, okay, cool, you know, your girls get the again. Typical, somewhat suburban upbringing, fenced in your to a degree.
Speaker 1:You go on family vacations in the summer, stuff like that. The last couple of years nobody's been going on vacation, but you guys have done that for a long time. Like in our house we just don't do that. But I feel, with these upcoming summers that you're going to be going through, I think that's family vacations are going to be tougher for you guys as well with the extracurriculars.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you know, yeah. Well, I mean, when we get to August and we start talking about band camp and things like that and having to plan around practices and right, you know, it gets challenging, definitely, definitely.
Speaker 1:And looking back, you know the sacrifices we're making now. We never saw those sacrifices our parents made, my mom, your parents made, we never, we never. We saw them, but we didn't realize that those were being sacrificed. They were sacrificing things.
Speaker 2:Right. You know, when you go through the grocery store now and you know everything rings up and you see $300 and you think, good Lord, my parents never spent $300 at a trip to the grocery store.
Speaker 1:No.
Speaker 2:You know how did they make it work on $100? How did $100 feed four of us for, you know, two weeks? Yep, I can't wrap my mind around that sometimes, right?
Speaker 1:And you know we also got to think about, you know, inflation. What would that grocery bill back then be worth today?
Speaker 2:Yeah, probably $300. Right, right, but you know. But you know they didn't have cell phone bills, they didn't have student loans. You know, we didn't have two car payments, we didn't have you know on and on, but you know it's just the difference in in a family budget now versus what it was then is kind of mind blowing. Yeah, for sure I think their mortgage payment was like $200 a month.
Speaker 1:Right, and in today's dollar that's probably $600 a month, which is still better than the $1,500 to $2,000 most people are spending. Yeah, but yeah, we look back and we look at the monetary sacrifices that they made, but then you know, we ignore the time stuff. You know we just parents are kind of always there. Now it's it's difficult as parents to be there for them because our jobs are so demanding and grueling and time consuming. Anymore and it's not just our line of work that Garrett and I do Almost all lines of work don't value family time and the importance of work life balance.
Speaker 1:You know, back in the day you go up to your boss and say, hey, I need to cut out two hours early tonight, or is another day then?
Speaker 1:So instead of working an eight hour shift, you're working on a 10 hour shift, so another day of the week, but you weren't getting overtime, you were just making up for lost hours. You're just like no in today's world. It's like no, I got to cut out two hours early. All right, I'm not paying you for those two hours and I'm not going to give you the opportunity to make it up or no, you're not leaving early and we're both managers in our respective places of business and I don't know about you, but I got a lot of employees with families. So I try to cut them out when they need and I try to give them that time off because I remember when the kids were younger I just I missed so much, yeah, you know. So my sacrifices to my family were made years ago and I'm at a point now in my career where I can kind of call my shots and say I'm taking a stay off from leaving early this night and I'm going to go to this event for them.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Our parents couldn't do that, as much you know. And then, looking back on the schooling side of things, if I didn't goof off so much in high school, I'd have gone off to college and again never meet you. If your professor didn't leave you a bad tasting your mouth for being an architect, you're off being an architect. Yeah, so the cause and effect is a real thing in life and, as, as as dads, we need to teach our children that. You know, every, every action has a reaction. Consequences are a real thing. Outcomes are always a thing like just because in the moment or in the near future of that moment nothing changes doesn't mean that a year from then, five years from then, that little decision you made doesn't have a drastic effect on the road.
Speaker 1:Right, you know, because you did this, this is going to happen on the road, or could happen. There's cause and effect in everything we do. So, you know, as dads, we need to teach our children the right and the wrong, right from wrong. We need to teach them that critical thinking and planning is an important trait and quality to have in your life and to build on and work on and understanding that. You know, maybe predicting the outcomes. If I do this, this could happen, this could happen or that could happen. If I don't do this, this could happen, that could happen or that could happen. You know, really kind of gauging what could happen from what the results of your actions can be and then owning it. You know, I think growing up our parents didn't really protect us too much. No, I wouldn't say that you were riding your bike around the countryside, the suburbs, you were standing out till dark, you had a curfew, I imagine.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I mean, we were always at somebody's house, right and back then as well.
Speaker 1:No cell phones, so we could be out all freaking day and our parents would know where we were, what we were doing, what we were getting into or somewhere in the neighborhood. Right Now we have access to our kids location and be able to contact them at the drop of a hat. A whole not, but we didn't. We had that freedom to the point where we didn't think about our actions and our consequences. True, and for the most part we stayed out of trouble.
Speaker 1:But now you know these kids are posting videos and reels and snaps of them fighting in school bathrooms and out smoking and all this stuff. And it's just like you do realize the whole world can see this. No, it's in private. It's in private. You do realize nothing's private. There's nothing private on the internet, nothing. You know, if you, if you're a dad with an athlete in your household, a child who is going to go off and and play sports at a higher education level, at college, d1, d2, juco, whatever you got to teach that child to watch what they put on the internet.
Speaker 1:How many of these kids have gone into the NFL, nba, nhl drafts, major league baseball, and you know, on the field. They're phenomenal, they're the next big thing, and you know what these teams are doing now. They have teams and departments within the organization that all they do is search your social media. They scour everything you've ever posted. They scour everything you've ever posted, interact it with, share like, comment it on, tweet it, whatever. And then they report back and they say well, back in 2019, so and so said this about black people.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that off color comment. You thought was no big deal yeah.
Speaker 1:Cost you millions, cost you your dream. How many of these athletes lost an opportunity To contraships? Yeah, and where did the disconnect come from? They weren't taught that their actions today will have consequences in the future. My actions 20 years ago, today, or 20 years ago, brought me to who I am here today, 20 years later, and that's, you know, that was. That was the eye opening thing with with kind of doing that challenge was thinking back and, like you said, reflecting and getting the therapy out of it, and then having the realization of everything that I did led me to this point in my life right now.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:And, as fathers, that's what we need to teach our children. Everything you do will lead you to a point in your life down the road and you got to kind of think is that where I want to be 10 years from now? Is that wrong? Let me be 15 years from now. You know, it's a difficult thing to do, though it's a difficult thing to ask of a young person to stop, let it marinate and think about it. I mean, I admitted that I'm I'm an impulse person In certain aspects of my life.
Speaker 1:I do, I am required and I have to think about what the results are going to be in the immediate, the near future and the future, and I have to decide in that moment. What I'm going to do and that's a very, very hard thing to learn and to master is decision making, because you have to have the right people helping you learn that skill as well. It's not an easy thing to learn on your own. Yeah, what are your thoughts on? You know the, the similarities, the comparing contrast of our two podcasts recordings and our two lives up until about 15 years ago.
Speaker 2:I mean, it's like, it's just like you said. It was just kind of, for as similar as the similarities are, the differences are almost polar opposites. And you know, I read as I read through yours, I'm like, wow, you know I can't relate to that, right, right, you know, keep reading them, like wow, I mean there's no way I could imagine going through that. Then I keep reading and then I go, I was there, I was exactly the same, you know, yep, and you know I can relate to that and and know exactly what that was like. Or you know to go through that. And then so it was. You know, it wasn't so much that you know, it's just the opposites in the contrasting with the similarities was, I don't know, kind of a cool thing maybe, I guess. But you know, like I said, that's. You know, I think why we get along so well is because you know we both understand the similarities but can offer advice or support through the differences, right, so right, you know there's that understanding of I don't know what he was going through.
Speaker 1:Then I can't empathize or sympathize with that because I didn't experience it. But you learn from each other from it too. You know you can help each other out from it, and I think this would be a cool challenge for a lot of guys to do with their close friend.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:You know we've talked about it in a past.
Speaker 1:You know, guys we need.
Speaker 1:We need that person or two to maybe three people, other guys that, like you and I, share current similarities but we have those contrasts and upbrings, those contrasts and life experiences, but are in similar positions now and bounce the bounce that off of each other and you kind of see that bond strengthened over that. You know who's that one dude, joey Diaz. He always played like the big mobsters in television shows he talks about. You know there's no, there's no need to have 20, 30 friends, you don't need that many friends. He goes give me three good men, me and my three buddies, me and my two buddies and you're through, you're finished. I could take over country because we're like minded, we have similar experiences, we have similar outlooks and we have similar goals and we have the same determination and killer instinct. Kind of deal. He goes and you're through, you're finished. I don't need 20 people, I just need two or three guys who got my back, I got theirs. Kind of deal.
Speaker 1:You know every, every, every guy has that person in their life, another guy, friend that they could. They can call and text till about four or five, six o'clock in the evening, you know text, funny memes checking in on you, and then about four or five in the evening, six o'clock maybe, that communication kind of like windows down because that other person's got a family and that other person's got other responsibilities and whatever. And you can have a bunch of those guys in your life. I could probably call them and say hey, this Sunday I got to, I got to go pick up some plywood. Can I borrow your truck? Can you help me out with that?
Speaker 1:Most, most guys have a few of those people in their their contact list that they can probably shoot a text or a phone call out to and no problem. But what most guys don't have is that person at 2am and at 3am that if I call you, you kind of wake up. Who's calling me at 2, you pick up your phone and you see it's me, you're answering that call. Most guys don't have that. If you call me at 2am, you call me at 3am. I see it's you. As I'm answering the phone, I'm putting my jeans on, I'm putting my boots on, I'm grabbing a hoodie, I'm grabbing gloves, I'm probably grabbing a shovel, yeah, and I'm just going to say where do you need me to be and when, likewise right. And then, fellas, you need that. You need that one guy, you need that 3am guy who's always got your back, no matter what. Or or maybe tells you, hey, go sit your ass back down, have a glass of water. Don't do this stupid thing right now, you know, maybe walk you off the ledge.
Speaker 1:Right. But that guy that I can text about helping me move a piece of furniture till about five o'clock at night ain't the guy that I can call at 3am, right, right, the guy I can call at 3am. I can call or text them at any point in time and I'm going to get a response Right Now. Fellas, when you, when you have that guy you got also understand that that guy is going to expect the same of you and don't have the expectation that if you text or call them that they have to answer immediately. They have lives too. Just like if you're in the middle of something, you see that phone call pop up or that text message pop up. Maybe you got an infant child that you're feeding, you're given a bath to change in a diaper. Handle that and call that person back. They'll understand why you didn't answer immediately.
Speaker 1:Shit, there's times where I text you or I call you, or your text me or call me and neither of us responds for hours, maybe even days, just because we know that it's stupid busy in our lives and in their lives. And if it was super important, you'd probably get a second phone call or second text pretty immediately, right. But if you ever call me at 3am. I'm waking up jeans, boots, hoodie, ski mask, whatever and we're going to go handle business, unless I answer and say, all right, where do you need me? You go, no, no, no, no, no, no. I just need you to talk me off the ledge. Okay, I'm gonna probably brew a cup of coffee and we're going to sit down and we're going to talk about this kind of situation. Yeah, but you, fellas, you got to have that. You got to find someone that you would trust your life with and, I think, in our cases, more importantly, the lives of your family with me. I don't have a will, never really thought about it.
Speaker 2:Probably something I should think of something everyone should think of sooner than later.
Speaker 1:But we've said this before and say it again if something were to happen to me or something were to happen to Garrett, we know that our families would be taken care of. There'd be no need to put it in a will, There'd be no need to exercise a power of attorney or nothing of that nature. It is just unspoken. It's an understanding that it be taken care of and I'm good with that. I have no worries about my family's future If something were to go left field with me. I ain't dead yet, so that's not a root for that to happen either. People Talked about wanting to bring guests on. Yeah, so we're closing in on the hour mark. We're going to watch this now. The first person I want to interview will probably be the hardest person. We're going to interview your brother.
Speaker 2:Yeah, we need to get him on here.
Speaker 1:We got to get him on here Because I want to. I kind of want to grill him on his, on his you, his early years and see if he has a similar memory of the upbringing and the childhood with that age gap the age gap?
Speaker 2:I believe yeah, Is this a different maturity level?
Speaker 1:Right, and he also put right, he also had a support system that you didn't have. He had an older brother. Yeah, you didn't have anyone, you were the older brother. So, yeah, you had the added responsibility, right, right, he had a little bit of a safety net, big bros there to help me out, yeah.
Speaker 1:So I'm curious what his memories are. And we won't we won't ask him to record his story like we did ourselves, but you know, kind of hot mic him and say, hey, what, what do you remember of childhood, what were your thoughts and how did that lead you here, and give us like a 15, 20, 25 minutes synopsis of it. You know, I think that'd be cool. I don't know who else I want to bring on, though, that we both know, and it doesn't necessarily have to be someone we both know, because, again, I think, if I said, hey, I got this guy that I know, I would kind of want to interview and bring him on, you know and who I am and the people that I would associate with, vice versa, you say so and so, cool guy, I want to talk to him. I'm like, yeah, let's get him on a mic, let's find a neutral location to do this and let's have a good time. So we got to, we got to think of that. Any of our followers, that be cool, anybody that follows us, they want to get on.
Speaker 1:Like I said, kind of want to do some video stuff. So maybe I figure out the whole Google meets or something. If you have a webcam or I can just do a mic audio recording only, and upload that. That'd be kind of cool to do. You know. So just reach out to us at the dadliest cast on Instagram Garrett or myself on Instagram and say, hey, yeah, I'd like to like to do that. You know, maybe we'll we'll message via the social medias and set up some. It's not going to be an expose. I just wanted to say expose honestly, but we're not going to, you know, grill you. You know, if there's some off limit things you don't want to discuss, you just let us know what not to discuss. We'll do our best not to bring that up. But you got to come with some fire. You got to come with some heat. Maybe you got to come with a dad joke Always welcome. Yeah, definitely, let's answer the internet real quick. Yeah, would you rather have flamingo legs or T Rex arms?
Speaker 2:I'm going to say flamingo legs. They're at least useful.
Speaker 1:I see my. My thought was T Rex arms. That was a poll, the internet, and 85% of barstool readers chose flamingo legs. I always feel like I end up choosing the minority side of the little.
Speaker 2:You can't really do anything with T Rex arms.
Speaker 1:Yeah, but I don't know. Am I, am I purple? See, we start over thinking these. Am I proportionate with my flamingo legs? Or am I like 190 pounds upper body and flamingo legs? Am I?
Speaker 2:going to be able to walk. Can your flamingo legs support you? It's right.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I guess let's assume they can. I don't know, man, I'd still move the arms. I don't have to get really close to everything to do something, but I'd still probably do the arms. That's a. That's a weird one. I don't know what TV show could you take a college course on and get an A? What TV show? Tv show, specifically a TV show, not movie, because I would cheat and go with Harry Potter. Um, yeah, I'm a nerd, leave me alone.
Speaker 2:Well, I mean, I think mine would have to be Star Wars related. Now I'll take the movies away. There's plenty of Star Wars television. Yep, Yep.
Speaker 1:So which of the Star Wars specials or series would you take a course in and say I can pass this with an A?
Speaker 2:I think I'm very fond of the all seven seasons of the Clone Wars cartoon.
Speaker 1:Okay, that's where I thought you were going to go. Yeah, definitely, yeah, yeah, yeah. Um TV shows. The problem is I watched like a lot of the Freshman's of Bell Air growing up as a kid.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:So I feel confident in it, but I'm also thinking to myself man, that's a lot of stuff to remember.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I have in mind what I think you're going to say, so so I'm going to fast forward and go something a bit more recent. Uh huh.
Speaker 1:And I'm probably going to go with the Daredevil series oh, netflix daredevil, because I think I've rewatched that like six or seven times over.
Speaker 2:Okay, what were? I thought you were going to say the office.
Speaker 1:Okay, see, I didn't watch the office through and through.
Speaker 2:I've started watching the reruns on Comedy Central.
Speaker 1:I mean, the first few seasons are really, really good, um, but I don't, yeah, I just I never finished that I can't honestly tell you, outside of the Marvel and Star Wars series. I couldn't tell you the last time I watched a series, season one, episode one, to the series finale.
Speaker 2:A few and far between.
Speaker 1:I just I can't.
Speaker 2:I did with the X files. Now that goes back a ways, yeah, but I don't know that I could today pass a course because it's been a while that's, and that's my thoughts on, like the Fresh Prince of Valor and Saved by the Bell, yeah. It's been a while, yeah, but I was very into it at the time and never missed it.
Speaker 1:Yep, yeah, um, couple of shows that we watch in the house, uh, on like rerun and all these streaming services. My wife's big into Frasier, which is actually a really good show. Um, she's rewatching it now for the umpteenth time and, uh, I'll be busy doing something else reading a comic or playing on my phone and and a scene will happen and a witty line will be said and I'll pop up and I'll go. That was good, I like that, you know very dry, sarcastic humor show. Uh, my wife's big into friends, the vampire diaries. I think she's rewatched that three or four times. And then she's big into like the crime, tv shows like NCIS, um, criminal Minds, not like, uh, law and Order, though I like Law and Order yeah, and their spinoffs.
Speaker 1:I would be impressed if someone could honestly say put me in a Law and Order 301 class with SVU and and Criminal Intent and all these other spinoffs, and I could ace that that class. That'd be impressive, that would be. Um, yeah, I would have to, similar to you, go with one of the Marvel television series and it'd probably be, uh, probably the Daredevil series, seasons one, two and three. I could take 101, 201 and 301 and pass it, no problem. Um, but yeah, that was, that was a good question. Now, if it were a movie, it'd be a different story. Movies it's yeah.
Speaker 2:Star Wars all that long.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I could fill a course schedule with movies. I could major in it. Yeah, yeah, yeah, all right. Well, let's wrap it up for the day. Um, garrett got a dad joke for us. I do have a dad joke Um oh, I saw one that was really good, but I really enjoyed.
Speaker 2:So why did the Mexican take medication? Why For his panic attacks.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I saw that one. That's a good one. That is a good one. Uh, I saw one. It was like did you, did you hear about the uh criminal organization made up of mimes? No, I didn't. They did unspeakable things. Oh man, yes, I've come across some good ones lately. Oh, one of the better things to come out of the internet. Um.
Speaker 2:I decided to get a pet termite. I named him Clint Eatswood.
Speaker 1:Yeah, oh man, oh, I just started following a page um on Instagram called Pennsylvania memes. So if you're from PA, you gotta you gotta Pennsylvania underscore memes, you gotta follow it. It's great, it's great. We gotta shout out a couple couple pages here and there every once in a while, um, but yeah, definitely follow Pennsylvania underscore memes. Good stuff on that page, um, other than that you got anything to leave off with no, no words of wisdom. Yeah, I'm not full of it either these days.
Speaker 1:Uh, just been so stressed at work but this, this felt good to do. Uh, we're going to get back on the uh horse here, get back to a more regularly scheduled programming and uh, drop some more episodes and get to work on some stuff. Um, beyond the lookout, I think uh, probably April or May, we're going to start ramping up for the dalleous cast back to school giveaway again. Yeah, uh, 2.0 or, you know, second annual, we'll figure out a kitchen name the bigger, better bash year. Uh, back to school. I think that's kind of what we talked about last time, but yeah, so, um, I got, I got some big things I want to do this year with this, you know, and uh, garrett and I will talk about it behind the scenes and, uh, I'm sure he's going to be just as excited as I am and we're going to do some great things this year. We're going to grow this, we're going to expand this and we're going to have a lot of fun doing it at the same time. So we really, really appreciate you guys over the last year listening and following along and supporting us.
Speaker 1:Um, we want more feedback from you. We want more, you know, classroom participation with you guys. Like I said, if you want to, if you want to be on a podcast with us, let us know Moms can join too. Yes, you know. So, if you, if you want, if your mom, a wife, whatever you got questions. You want some insider secrets too. We'll give you some Maybe, maybe. But yeah, all right, guys, thanks for listening this, uh, this has been fun. We will see you on the next one.
